I have an embarrassing confession to make, I used to be a self-help junkie. This is how naive I was; I actually believed these books were written by people who knew the secret to life. I thought they were providing a service to the public. It took me years to realise they were selling me a product. The promise of a better life, a new and improved me.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not bashing self-help books. There are many wise authors who have written wonderful books that help but there’s also a lot of trash out there masquerading as help. There’s always a flip side to everything.
I look back now and see how I developed this addiction. I compared myself to others, all my friends and colleagues were smarter, prettier, more talented and accomplished. I thought there was something wrong with me. The irony is that that was wrong with me was believing that there was something wrong with me.
Then one day I heard the still small voice within. During meditation I received the idea to thank myself periodically throughout the day for every little mundane thing I did. For having a shower, doing the laundry, exercising, cleaning the dishes, paying the bills, meditating etc. Seems a bit silly doesn’t it to thank yourself for having a shower. But who else, if not you, is going thank you for taking good care of yourself.
After practising it for a couple of months I discovered this simple little exercise, that only takes a few minutes a day was extremely powerful. I no longer focused on what I didn’t do or what I had done wrong, in short, I stopped criticising myself. Over a short period of time I became more grateful, self-loving and motivated. I found out, that when you give yourself appreciation on a regular basis your inner self shines and is eager to do more. The added bonus, you no longer seek approval from others or spend all of your money on books.
May all beings be helped!
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